• Another Crisis

    My family moved from Luxemburg, Wisconsin, population less than 500, to Milwaukee during the summer of 1961. From a grade school with eight grades spread over six classrooms, my brother and I were enrolled in a Catholic elementary school with 150 kids in every grade. We had never seen so many kids. 

    The first year was rough on my mother who no longer had a part-time job, a bowling league, or knew the names of everyone in the parish. She didn’t even know the names of women on our block. By the summer of 1962 life could be testy in our household. My great-grandmother moved back to Luxemburg and took me with her at the start of summer. 

    Our second school year began with more confidence and my mother found a seasonal job. She was happier. Until October 16 when the beginning of the Cuban Missile Crisis moved the world toward danger. People were deeply afraid that Cold War was morphing into actual war with Russia, including missiles falling on the United States. Adults knew about the horror of war. Kids were directed in useless duck and cover drills, crawling under our desks with our hands over our heads.

    My mother wanted to be in our Luxemburg home with its dug-out basement, food cellar and indoor pump. Our Milwaukee ten-year-old ranch offered no place to hide. It was too late to build a bomb shelter. She emptied the clothes closet in a spare room, brought in blankets and pillows, water jugs, crackers, peanut butter and other food plus towels, tissue and a bucket. She listened to the radio constantly. We went to bed fully dressed. October 28, she woke us with orders to get into the closet. Blankets had been placed over window curtains, a rug rolled at the bottom of the door. We listened to news coverage throughout the night. The crisis was averted. Nerves remained raw for years.

    We’re back to practicing some odd form of duck and cover. And it is just as useless. The stakes are high for every citizen and much of the world.

    Square

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    One response to “Another Crisis”

    1. Karen Seashore Avatar

      I was a junior in high school then. We were old enough to face the crisis with our friends, leaving our parents to do what they could to consider what might happen. That felt very real. The chaos in DC feels like MAGA theater, designed to distract. But in neither case do we have any control over what is happening, which requires us to ask: What will I do if the dreaded [events] actually occur? What kind of person do I want to be if the crisis becomes real?

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  • Because There’s Not Enough Wine or Chocolate in the World for This

    This has been a tough week for me. Perhaps for you, too. I avoided the inauguration, choosing instead to honor Martin Luther King Jr., truly a man of vision, integrity, and character. Nevertheless, my emotions have been turbulent. What follows is the evolution of my feelings. Feel free to skip to whatever part you need to hear today. 

    Frustration 

    “Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”  Martin Luther King, Jr. from Strength to Love

    The first blog I wrote this week was about my frustration and dismay that so many Trump supporters reject mainstream media and rely on social media and political podcasts to form their views. In other words, user-generated content—someone else’s opinion. Facts are not expected or required.

    I struggled to think about how Trump’s supporters could possibly be influenced. How do verifiable truths become accepted again? Certainly not with factual arguments. But experiences can change minds. I hope that when it becomes clear he can’t deliver on his many outrageous promises, some of his supporters (not all–the diehard believers are beyond our influence) will become disillusioned and their disappointment will erode his power.

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    Then I thought, maybe WordSisters readers can’t bear another political conversation right now. So the next blog I wrote turned practical. 

    Survival Tactics

    “The dawn will come. Disappointment, sorrow, and despair are born at midnight, but morning follows.” Martin Luther King, Jr. from Strength to Love

    It’s imperative we not give up. But the bombardment of Trump’s awful decisions and destructive actions is hard to cope with. So I thought about sharing my survival tactics. 

    1. Focus on your family and friends. This is the sphere where you can have the biggest impact. Talk often, hang out together, plan meals and outings together. Take care of each other.

    2. Consume less news. Skimming headlines is fine. When you have limited power to effect change, being informed in a topline way is plenty. Read, listen, or watch news later in the day. Allow the good parts of your day to happen first. Good stuff dilutes the overwhelm. Avoid the many opinion pieces that speculate (Trump might ___. If Trump’s cabinet does this ____ might be at risk). Save your worry and anger for actual events.

    I believe in those coping mechanisms, but sometimes the world is too heavy and we need more.

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    Inspiration 

    What finally helped me the most was focusing on Martin Luther King, Jr.’s wisdom. He continued believing and fighting for years and years regardless of the many hardships and setbacks he and the other civil rights leaders experienced. We can too.

    “Let us rise up tonight with a greater readiness. Let us stand with a greater determination. And let us move on in these powerful days, these days of challenge to make America what it ought to be. We have an opportunity to make America a better nation.” Martin Luther King, Jr., from his speech in Memphis the night before he died.

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    3 responses to “Because There’s Not Enough Wine or Chocolate in the World for This”

    1. Ann Coleman Avatar

      Excellent advice for surviving hard times!

    2. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Love your title, Ellen. And I love that you shared the wisdom of MLK, just what we need to listen to right now.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Thank you! I usually avoid political topics, but felt I had to speak up this week.

  • Are You My Mother?

    A visit to the Everglades. Alligator mother.

    “Where is my mother?” the baby bird asked.

    I will go and look for her,” he said.

    So away he went.

    He did not know what his mother looked like.

    Where he would find her.

    This popular children’s story speaks of the importance of belonging, finding your tribe, your people. The kitten, hen, dog, cow, were not his mother so the little bird went on. The boat, plane, and snorting steam shovel were not his mother.

    Jody and I started our RV adventure on September 30, 2024. Along the way, we asked ourselves the question, “Are you, my mother?”

    Our search for belonging, for community.

    Perhaps it’s because 2024/2025 are political years. Perhaps it’s because we are a married couple. Perhaps it’s the insular nature of an RV park.

    The answer continually echoed: we don’t belong here.

    We didn’t find one couple or one person in the 210-site park we could share ourselves with.

    Instead, we escaped the park in our RV to take in long breaths at the ocean. In November, I flew to Texas to buy a car, and drove it back to Florida to increase our ability to leave the RV park.

    Once our search started, we decided that even though the park was beautiful and the folks friendly that it was more important to have a feeling of acceptance and inclusion.

    Inching ever closer, Jody and I have given notice at our RV park and are moving to a community in Fort Myers on Saturday.

    It’s important to not settle. Not try to fit in. To trust ourselves. Be proud of who we are.

     

    4 responses to “Are You My Mother?”

    1. Bonnie and Galen Avatar
      Bonnie and Galen

      Beth and Jodi, have you considered the Southwest? We’re in Mesa, Arizona, at a place that I, years ago, said I would never live. And I love it here! There’s great biking. In fact I just returned from a 40 mile ride where I was on an off road path at least 35 of the miles. There’s fabulous hiking nearby. The mountains are not as beautiful as the Colorado Rockies, but they’re still nice to look at as you ride. There are wild horses about 10 miles from us, if you are lucky enough to see them. I filmed video of two of them, up on their back legs, fighting! People here range in age from 55 to us old timers. And there are some even older than us!

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Bonnie and Galen, So good to hear from you! A 40 mile bike ride! Count us in! We will definitely look at the Southwest. We have one more summer of helping with Crystel’s college expenses – by volunteering – then we will plan on a trip out to Mesa. We love to hike. There is a preserve next to us that we are taking the dogs to each morning. Biking, hiking, sounds like you found your home.

    2. Amanda Le Rougetel Avatar

      Best wishes to you both as you continue to find your way on this journey. I agree that a feeling of belonging and acceptance is vital to good health and happy days. I look forward to the next instalment of your story from Fort Myers…

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you, Amanda. We are enjoying hiking in the preserve next to us with our dogs. So much to expolore. A wonderful welcome to the community.


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