• We Can Do This … the Saying of Yes

    Jody and BethOne month ago, Jody and I flew to Texas for a weeklong RV Fundamentals course. We don’t own an RV. Our goal was to learn the intricacies of RVs and how to maintain a motorhome before buying. Our chance of success would increase, and we’d have much less frustration.

    Class A motorhomes look like a large bus, Class B a van, and a Class C has a sleeping area over the cab.

    On two occasions we had rented an RV for travel. A 31ft. Class C for a trip to the Grand Canyon and a 30ft. Class C for a trip to Mount Rainier. We learned that we had no idea what the sensors were indicating, where the fuse box was and what to look for if the refrigerator stopped working. We punted. We asked questions of other RVers, found the operator’s manual, and bought a cooler and ice to keep food cold.

    After landing in Dallas, we picked up our rented 24ft. Class C. This would be our home for ten days while we attended classes at the National RV Training Academy (NRVTA) in Athens. The program prepares individuals to apply basic technical knowledge and skills to build, test, inspect, repair, service and maintain recreational vehicles, systems, and interior and exterior components. At the end of the week there was an optional RV Service Technician exam.

    Back of ClassWe didn’t sign up for the test. We hid in the back of the class.

    At first, our goal was to listen to the lectures, and be active in the labs. Absorb the teachings and feel more competent as yet-to-be RV owners.

    We were intrigued to learn being an RVer could lead to a business opportunity.

    During the week we attended small business developmental training before the technical training started. The Stepping into Business Success course was compelling. Jody and I could see our way to owning a small business. Our new RV could be a work vehicle and become a tax write-off. Graduates of the school were in business as RV Techs, Inspectors, and some had branched off to other specialties such as air conditioners, refrigerators, generators and solar.

    We just needed to find our niche.

    Where we landed was the deep cleaning of grey and black tanks. Ms. and Ms. Poo if you must.

    Jody certificatesAt week’s end, Jody and I received an RV Fundamentals Training certificate. In addition, Jody studied for and passed the RV Service Technician exam and became certified.

    Still, we didn’t own an RV. Our intention was to buy one from a private owner or dealership while on vacation in Florida in the coming six weeks. Our retirement snapshot was summer at our home in Minnesota and winter in Florida living in an RV.

    During one of our breakout lab sessions, Jody and I mentioned that we were looking to purchase an RV. A classmate had an aunt who lived in Farmersville, Texas selling a 2020 Class A 28ft. Winnebago Intent with less than 10,000 miles. Having spent a week crawling into a corner bed and bruising our elbows and shins from the tight space of a 24ft., owning a much larger RV was very appealing. We had never considered a Class A. I kept returning to the fact that we had previous experience with a 30 and 31ft RV. This was just a different style, and the length was only 28ft!

    Jody and I drove 1 ½ hours to Farmersville, met the owners, and test drove the Class A. The owners were delightful. It was a motorhome we could be proud of. We signed a bill of sale. Named her Flo.

    Back home in Minnesota Jody and I registered two businesses with the State: tankrefreshrv (grey and black tank maintenance) and dogGo (Jody’s dog walking business).

    Class A photoWhile we were on a roll, we researched becoming Workampers. Workampers are people who have chosen a lifestyle that combines work with RV camping. RVers are provided a campsite in exchange for service.

    During our vacation in Florida, Jody and I secured part-time positions for the coming winter season at an RV resort as activity directors. We will also oversee our small business on the side.

    Jody and I have signed up for additional online training to be poo specialists.

    We are no longer saying, “We can do this,” we are saying, “We ARE doing this.”

    It’s been one month since our RV Fundamentals class. Following the flow, the saying of yes, brought us to this point. The only thing missing is Flo herself. She’s still in Farmersville, Texas. Mid-March, after our vacation in Florida, we’ll fly to Texas to bring her home.

    Can’t wait to get to know her.

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    16 responses to “We Can Do This … the Saying of Yes”

    1. clownboat Avatar
      clownboat

      You and Jody are always inspiring! (And surprising!)

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you, Scott!!! Are you planning your next trip?

    2. Kayak Guatemala - Los Elementos Adventure Center Avatar
      Kayak Guatemala – Los Elementos Adventure Center

      Well, I didn’t see that one coming!! What a hoot. Don’t even think about driving your rig down to Guatemala. Ha ha.

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Lee, unfortunately, one place we won’t take it. We always keep returning to the lake.

    3. Ann Avatar
      Ann

      Wow! You two continue to bring new surprises. I love how you are doing your life your way. Keep on keeping on! Xxoo

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thanks, Ann. We are having fun. Lots of laughs in our learning.

    4. Amanda Le Rougetel Avatar

      Very exciting! Cannot wait to hear about this new RV adventuring…

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you Amanda for reading!

    5. Deborah Keenan Avatar
      Deborah Keenan

      Your life is so interesting to read about and consider. And I love reading about your beautiful marriage.

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Deborah, always one of our greatest fans! Thank you for reading and commenting. I carry you in my heart.

    6. Joy J Avatar
      Joy J

      Awesome!! Matt and I had often thought about becoming “Your Campground Host” while visiting state and National Parks in our retirement with our decked out Sprinter van!

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Joy, I am laying odds that you and Matt will be doing just that! You will have so much fun. We will see you on the road!

    7. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Exciting next step… congrats!

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thanks, Eliza. We are having a lot of fun and lots of laughs learning new things!

    8. ckwordsister Avatar
      ckwordsister

      Way to go, Beth! We have met folks in WI State Parks who receive free camping + a small stipend for taking a similar role in the camp grounds and I’ve thought that was an interesting lifestyle. Congrats for transitioning into the next phase of life. Welcome Flo.

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you, Cynthia! The folks sound like workampers! It is exciting for me and Jody to forge ahead to the unknown. Keeps our hearts pounding!

  • Love of a Woman

    Did you notice many people wearing red February 2 to call attention to the American Heart Association®️ Go Red for Women®️ campaign?  Has anyone mentioned to their doctors the Yale’s Women’s Health Research study on women’s lower outcomes compared to men after coronary artery bypass surgery? Keep in mind that heart disease is the #1 killer of American women and 44% live with some form of it.

    February is National Heart Health month. While political theater would keep female eyes focusing on reproductive health as women’s major issue, most of the true state of women’s health is unknown. Not only is there inequality in how the medical community treats women, but less than 11% of the National Institute of Health’s 2020 budget went towards female illnesses or conditions. Staying with heart health challenge, only 29% of cardiac artery bypass surgery is done on women, with a statistically lower success. Heart disease presents different in women and is often ignored. Select surgeons recommend that more female cardiac surgeons need to be trained to care for female patients with additional research and training on female heart disease treatment. 

    Not need to worry unless you are a woman or love a woman. That includes daughters, sisters, mothers, partners, special friends. 

    The World Health Organization found that although women in the European Union live longer than men, they spend more of their lives in poor health. Prevention is not as high a consideration in women’s health as intervention–waiting until illness has hit, a pregnancy is in trouble, a young mother cannot take care of her family. Research money in pain management is directed toward men—80% of budget while about 70% of women manage long-term pain. 

    Women are responsible for 85% of the decisions about their families’ healthcare. Marketers know a lot about women as buyers and users of healthcare. Sophisticated research can be done today by manipulating data. So why doesn’t the healthcare world know more about the differences between men and women’s bodies?

    For love of all women, healthcare research and care delivery need to immediately update thinking that treats a five-foot four-inch female standing next to a six-foot male as merely a smaller body. Someone you love might depend on more specific knowledge and care.

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    One response to “Love of a Woman”

    1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

      Excellent reminder and call to action. Even though I knew some of this, the stats are startling.

  • Making It Up as I Go Along

    In my everyday life, I’m a planner. I schedule visits with friends, household chores, exercise, and so forth. I mark my calendar and make detailed lists. But when it comes to big decisions, I’ve often acted on a gut feeling and made consequential choices without really knowing what I was doing or how they would turn out. I’ve winged it.

    For example, I moved cross-country for college teaching jobs when I was in my 20s. I knew very little about the English departments I’d be part of or the small towns I was moving to. In the first college town I discovered the lack of privacy. Students hounded me about grades at the bar when I was blurry after half a pitcher of happy hour beer. Or they’d chat me up in the drugstore as I reached for a box of tampons. The next college had three different presidents by December, and we worried our paychecks would bounce. Nonetheless, I grew into a competent teacher and made lifelong friends.

    When the second college’s financial troubles led to layoffs, I moved back to my hometown to be closer to family. I didn’t have a job but hoped I’d figure it out despite the recession. For nine months, I burnt through my teacher’s pension before I got a job writing training materials—which launched my next career as a marketing communications writer. Once I was employed, my fiancé joined me and we were married in the loving circle of family.

    A few years later, I moved away again after my husband got a job in Minnesota because our prospects were limited in Ohio. We started over in an unfamiliar city—with new jobs and a new house but no roadmap for how to be settled and happy there. 35 years later our roots are deep. Our expanding family and circle of friends are here. We happily consider ourselves Minnesotans. Wind chill and all. 

    Although I liked the fulltime job I first took in Minnesota, I wanted to have more time with our young sons. I launched a freelance communications business with only one client and nothing but promises of work from others. I knew little about the ups and downs of managing clients and erratic cash flow. 

    Fortunately, my husband is excellent with finances. I discovered I had a knack for keeping clients happy and writing about their products and services. I kept my business going for 18 years, but after our youngest son left for college, I wanted to have coworkers again. My collie/office mate was sweet but didn’t have much to say. I took a hospital communications job and enjoyed being part of a large team.

    Several years later, there was a reorganization and the joy went out of the job for me. At 61, I didn’t see other part-time career opportunities, so I decided to retire. Although I knew retirement would be major transition, my vision for it was vague. Since then, I’ve built a satisfying life which includes writing, reading, tutoring, gardening, traveling, and plenty of time with family and friends. Occasionally, a headhunter approaches me about work, but I’m not tempted. Retirement life is great!

    At each of those turning points, I wasn’t sure how the change would play out. I didn’t have a blueprint to ensure my new life would be OK. I trusted myself to make up my new life as I went along. I’ve made my share of mistakes and endured some tough times, but so far, things have worked out.

    These days, I occasionally worry that I haven’t prepared enough for the coming years. We have organized our retirement finances, and we’re actively enjoying life while our health is good. Otherwise, I approach aging in a short-sighted way—with no real plan, just wishes. As if I’m not aging. As if I won’t have to deal with assisted living. As if my own health won’t deteriorate and friends and family won’t get ill or die. I’ve been living life as if I’m not growing older, except obviously I am. 

    Sometimes I wish I could prepare for the emotional and physical hardships in my future. Like if I had a plan, I could avoid them. But I know worrying about what hasn’t happened only robs today of joy. I remind myself I’ll figure it out as I go along—just like I always have.

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    16 responses to “Making It Up as I Go Along”

    1. Ann Coleman Avatar

      I think the hardest part about planning for aging is that we don’t know exactly how we’ll age! All we can do is prepare as best we can, and then just “wing it!”

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Exactly! I PLAN to wing it 😏

    2. Karen Martha Avatar

      WordPress won’t let me give you a like without changing my password. Uff da. Anyhow, there’s a finite variable in the mess of our lives–time. Time is on our side when we are younger, but narrows as we get older. I also suspect that beneath what feels like impulsive changes at the time, there’s another dynamic operating. Great blog! Lots to think about.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Thank you! I think there was some intuitive sense operating even if my rational mind wasn’t aware if it until afterwards.

    3. Betsy Taylor Avatar
      Betsy Taylor

      Probably my favorite post of yours yet. This resonated.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Thank you! I never know what people will relate to. I really appreciate you reading.

    4. CATHY MADISON Avatar
      CATHY MADISON

      Indeed. And don’t forget that, thanks to acquired wisdom and experience, you’re better

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Thanks! It’s important to trust our instincts.

    5. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Your second to last paragraph rung a bell with me, Ellen, it’s just where I find myself as well. Worry is ineffective and how can one really prepare for such uncertainty? I just aim to do the best I can and hope for the best outcome. 🙏🏼

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Exactly! That paragraph is really the heart of the blog. The rest is me reminding myself not to fret–I’ll figure it out as it comes.

    6. Beth Avatar

      Ellen, It’s as if you peeped into my life and knew, “Beth needs to hear this right now!” As if. Thank you for putting this one out there. (heart, hug).

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Oh, I’m so glad you heard it when you need it!

    7. WritingfromtheheartwithBrian Avatar

      I’m a planner too, but if you really put me on the spot, I’d probably have to admit that I think most of us, despite what we say, really are just making it up as we go along. Knowing who you are and the values that matter to you, Resiliency, Flexibility, and Perseverance . . . sounds like good traits for a make-it-up-as-you-go-along plan! Good luck.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Thanks for reading and commenting! I think you’re right–our basic values guide us even if it seems like we’re winging it.

    8. Sally Showalter Avatar
      Sally Showalter

      So very interesting, diverse and true. Thank for your wonderful expressions.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Thanks for reading! I’m glad my POV resonated with you.


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