• Fate of the Crumbled Cookie

    Tip of the hat to the Girl Scouts gathered outside stores with boxes of their annual cookies. This blog is not written for them.

    Peanut butter cookies float my boat. For those with peanut sensitives, please substitute your favorite cookie variety. At the local Piggly Wiggly the store-baked cookies are delightful and at their peak for at least five or six days. Soft and buttery, one cookie has to be enough for anyone over the age of daily recess playtime. 

    I carried the last four cookies home near the end of their prime to surprise my husband. Unfortunately, they rested under bananas in the carrying tote. That’s the way the cookies crumbled. Four round sweets became pieces of many sizes in a sealed bag. The 1950s phrase, jokingly exchanged with my husband, stuck in my mind. 

    On Reality Wednesday, the day after Super Tuesday, I responded “this is the way the cookie crumbles” to a friend’s deep unhappiness about voters’ behavior. He asked if I had learned that phrase from my grandmother then suggested I use the appropriate contemporary phrase: shit happens. Which describes what many people hope to avoid during the 2024 election cycle.

    Our discussion made me wonder about how U.S. English slang language transitioned from cookies crumbling to shit happens when describing something bad has happened and a person must accept the way things are.  The 1950s were considered a happy time in the U.S. with the boys (and girls) returning home from war, building houses, starting families and enjoying the life that World War II sought to protect. Cookie references seem to reflect that seventy years ago kind of contented outlook.

    And today’s phrase also seems to reflect the current emotion of our nation.  Fearful, divided, violent, embracing the crudeness of life, watching events too large to be absorbed that must be accepted because people did die or had their lives negatively impacted. We’re not looking forward to a golden era, just trying to adjust to what now exists, and hoping for at least a plateau in our world’s disruption. For some the best times are past. For others the best times were never experienced. 

    These are broad painted observations. Media no longer allows people to remain ignorant of what is broken or underdeveloped in our country or how the physical environment of our world demands attention.  

    I ate some of the cookie pieces and one of the offending bananas. Mustn’t waste. Time to return to the heavy lifting of doing something to keep more shit from happening.  

  • Saying Goodbye to My Books

    In preparation for a someday move, I’ve been parting with my books. Hundreds of them over the past three years. Most have been collecting dust for decades (I bought my house in 1989), while others are recent additions. Some are quick reads I started and finished while drinking a cup of coffee, while others took me more than a year to make my way through.

    Many are still on my “to read” list while others have been read and reread, by me and by the family and friends I’ve shared them with. Some were gifts, though most were bought by me at local bookstores or while traveling.

    One reason I have so many books is because the upstairs of my house, which once belonged to the owners of a local used bookstore, is a 45- by 15-foot half-story lined with—no surprise—bookshelves, 150 linear feet of them, plus three standalone bookcases.

    Although I’ve loved owning my books, some of which date back to my years as a college English major, now that I’m on Medicare and beginning to think of moving, it’s time to let them go.

    But parting isn’t easy, in large part because I still treasure the stories they told, the memories they hold and the lessons they taught. There are books about saints that I read while in Catholic grade school, and books about the sea I read while in Florida on family vacations. There are books I used to motivate myself, and others I turned to for solace after the deaths of my parents.

    There’s a shelf of books that include autographs from people I admire and heartfelt messages from people who love me. There’s even one shelf dedicated to books written by people I know, and whom you may know as well: Marly Cornell, Kate DiCamillo and Cathy Madison to name a few. Plus, books by Natalie Goldberg, Mary Carroll Moore and others from whom I’ve taken a Loft class or gotten to know because of a writing workshop.        

    Just seeing the books brings back a flood of memories of the books themselves—the characters, the settings, the twists and turns of their plots—as well as where I was when I read them: while packed in the car with my parents and four younger sisters on our way to Florida for a family vacation, while taking college English classes, while flying to China, while spending a month on a Panama beach, while sitting bedside during my father’s final hours.

    Others such as How to Forgive When You Don’t Know How and Living Proof: Telling Your Story to Make a Difference home in on my desire to be a better person and to advocate for causes I care about.

    And, no surprise to anyone who knows me, there are also dozens of self-help books, many of which inspired me to write my own book, What Do You Really Want? How to Set a Goal and Go for It, A Guide for Teens.

    While I’ve treasured all my books, I’ve recently begun sending them back out into the world. I’ve donated hundreds to Rain Taxi, a local non-profit that sponsors the annual Twin Cities Book Festival, which includes a book sale. I’ve also put dozens in the Little Free Library down the street.

    Still others I’ve passed on to family and friends whom I hope will enjoy them—or learn as much from them—as I have. They range from true crime to travel guides, from books by (and about) artists to how-to books on everything from fishing and stargazing to tying knots and learning Spanish.

    And because I now do most of my reading on my phone thanks to the Kindle and audiobooks I borrow from the Hennepin County Library, my shelves are becoming empty.

    Thankfully I have one thing that will keep my book memories alive: the annual “books I’ve read” lists. I truly treasure these lists and the many fond memories they prompt of the nearly 2,000 books I’ve read since I started keeping track back in 1982.

    As author Italo Calvino has written, “Your house, being the place in which you read, can tell us the position books occupy in your life.” And although there are now far fewer books in my house than there were in the past, I hope you will always be able to see the important place they hold in my life.

    6 responses to “Saying Goodbye to My Books”

    1. cmkraack Avatar
      cmkraack

      I have a friendly used bookstore owner in WI who has accepted most of the books I need to release. Unfortunately he gives me store credits. And of course that means purchasing more books. A nice story, Bev.

    2. Ann Coleman Avatar

      I totally understand! I only keep books that I’m willing to read more than once, and yet I still have five bookshelves full of them. I know that someday I’ll have to weed them out, and I also know that will be painful. Books to speak to us, of the different things we lived through, of all our experiences, and the stories in them are friends. You expressed this so well!! And good for you for passing some of them on to people you think they’d help….that takes time, but it’s worth it!

    3. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Downsizing books isn’t always easy, but being very heavy, they are a bear to move! Needs must. 😉

    4. CATHY MADISON Avatar
      CATHY MADISON

      Loved this! Especially after just delivering a cumbersome armful to the Litt

    5. Sally Showalter Avatar
      Sally Showalter

      I love the way books hold a person, make a person, and give so much back. You made me feel each shelf as you emptied and moved along with the books as you carefully placed them in significant spots for others. Thank you Bev!

      1. Bev Bachel Avatar
        Bev Bachel

        I so appreciate your kind words. Thanks for taking the time.

  • “Why, in my day . . .”

    Growing up, I recall elders recounting tales about life before some innovation. Today, the advent of artificial intelligence (AI) is a hinge moment like so many technological advances I’ve experienced in the last 40 years. I look back on past breakthroughs with wonder and nostalgia. I’m trying to come to terms with current developments.

    1984 – Desktop Computers

    I roll my eyes when young volunteer coordinators enquire if I’m comfortable with computers. In 1984, my boss handed me boxes for an Apple IIe desktop computer and an amber monitor (orange type on a black screen) and told me to set them up so I could write marketing and training materials. 

    1989 – Internet

    Today, that old setup is quaint and humorous—a one-color monitor, 5¼ inch diskettes, a computer that didn’t connect to the Internet . . . because the World Wide Web wasn’t mainstream until 1989-90.

    When the Internet became commonplace, we used painfully slow telephone dial-up modems with their crackling static and rubber band sound. Modems meant I no longer had to courier work product files to my customers on diskettes, which had shrunk to 3½ inches. 

    1994 – 2001 – Search Engines and Websites

    In the mid-1990s, search engines like Yahoo, AOL, and Netscape came on the scene and Search Engine Optimization (SEO) helped people, products, and businesses get found. Google started in 1998. It’s hard to imagine a time before Google, when research meant visiting a brick and mortar library to use printed resources that might be checked out to someone else.

    As websites grew common, having one for my business became important. A friend and I designed and rolled out mine in 2001. Several versions followed until I retired it several years ago.

    1996 – Cell Phones 

    For me, the next technological cliff came around 1996 or 1997 when small cell phones arrived. They made calls. That’s it. If you had the patience to tap number buttons repeatedly, you could eke out texts. No camera. No Internet. No email. No music. No maps. Next, I owned a different dumb phone that opened to a qwerty keyboard. Around 2005, I acquired a fancier flip phone with a camera. Woohoo! Before long my 35mm digital camera was obsolete.

    2007 – Smartphones

    The world shifted dramatically again when the iPhone was introduced in 2007—the best of the available smartphones. Cell phones had enabled me to keep up on client calls and emails seamlessly when I was away from my home office—in other words, an early version of remote work. Staying connected with family became immensely simpler too.

    2007 – 2008 – Facebook & Twitter

    The advent of social media—Facebook and Twitter along with their many step-children—has transformed the world. How we discover, understand, and consume news. How we see ourselves and connect with or demonize others. There’s no denying social media’s far-reaching impact. Despite my mixed feelings about Facebook, it’s where a number of readers find our blogs. 

    Now – Artificial Intelligence

    Evidence of artificial intelligence is everywhere—Siri and Alexa, helpful spelling prompts in texts and emails, blank-eyed, AI-drawn models in ads, and who knows how many AI functions we are unaware of. 

    AI makes me uneasy. But I don’t want to be a Luddite, so I’ve told myself I really ought to dig in, try to understand its scope, possibilities, and implications . . . insofar as any non-AI developer can. I’ve begun experimenting with ChatGPT as a research tool (think of all the data it accesses), but it’s never going to be writing my blogs! Count on 100% Ellen, all the time.

    Five years from now, when the next technological wonder launches, who knows what we’ll be saying?

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    12 responses to ““Why, in my day . . .””

    1. Karen Seashore Avatar

      People are even more amazed when I tell them that my first trip to Europe—1955–was by boat. It was not easy to get to Norway by plane then…I know, because we lived near the airport and I don’t remember any noise…

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Funny to think of! I think of my grandmother who was born in 1885 and witnessed the advent of radio, autos, TV, and moon landing ( but she believed it was just a show on TV).

        1. Karen Seashore Avatar

          And my mother grew up without electricity until she was 14– then went to college and traveled the world (mostly by boat—she liked them. One of the last trips on the original Queen Mary…)

    2. Ann Coleman Avatar

      We’re basically living the a technological revolution, and it’s going to make the industrial revolution look tame compared to the changes it will make in our society and the world. There’s both bad and good in it, as in all change, but I think AI is something so completely different that the ramifications will be profound. We can only hope they won’t also be devastating, but the chance for it is certainly there.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        I agree AI’s ramifications will be profound and it worries me.

    3. Luanne Avatar

      Ellen, in my opinion, AI is not the same as the other technological advances you mention. It is extremely dangerous for many reasons. Just one of them is that it’s impossible for us to tell when AI has been used in many cases. Eventually, it will be impossible ever to tell. the ramifications of that is going to be drastic for humanity. I’m usually more measured in what I say about things, but I feel that AI is different than anything else.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        I agree with you—it scares me for the reasons you named. I don’t know how we get the genie back into the bottle though, so I’m trying to get a rudimentary understanding of it.

        1. Luanne Avatar

          The more we use it, the smarter it grows. That also worries me.

        2. Ellen Shriner Avatar

          I do worry about it growing smarter and replacing people or eliminating whole categories of careers. I worry about the bias that its developers have and build in — accidentally or intentionally. The hidden aspect worries me the most.

        3. Luanne Avatar

          That’s it exactly.

    4. Eliza Waters Avatar

      I’ve often admired folks like you on the front lines, embracing new technology in business as well as personal. I’ve always been a latecomer, or missed the first wave completely. Most concepts go right over my head (my kids despair or scoff at my ignorance). My son bought me my first smart phone in ’22 and I can barely navigate around that thing. But I’m a blogger, so I must not be that bad!

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        I’m no techo wizard! But my work required I use the stuff and keep up. My sons and husband help me A LOT 😆


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