This year I didn’t make any New Year’s resolutions. That’s odd, because they have always appealed to me. I cherish the idea of fresh starts, and I have an abiding belief in a person’s ability to change. And it’s not as if I’ve magically become a better person who doesn’t need to improve!
But I’m moving away from this familiar yearly cycle—Wanting to change –>making resolutions –> attacking my goals for a while –> losing energy and focus –> feeling bad –> re-resolving to incorporate the changes.
For example, year after year I have vowed to exercise regularly and to devote more time to writing. I’d start off full of zeal—this is the year! But establishing habits is a daily battle. Oops, I ran out of time. Something came up. Better luck tomorrow. Eventually, my enthusiasm would flag. Hmm. Maybe the fact that I had to renew those intentions yearly was a hint that my approach wasn’t working!
Early last year, I stumbled across a better way to incorporate new habits into my life. The insight came about as a side effect of writing out my weekly calendar. Instead of taking a work-before-pleasure approach, I began identifying blocks of time when I could do the things that matter most to me: writing, volunteering, exercising, connecting with friends and family, and pursuing other creative outlets (e.g., pottery, sewing, trying a new recipe). After I’ve made time for my priorities, I fit in necessary evils like cleaning, laundry, appointments, and shopping.
Writing a detailed calendar may sound fussy and restrictive, but for me, it’s energizing. It’s about scheduling fun. Fulfillment. I’m making time for what I like to do and what I think is important. And that’s a good thing. I rarely do everything I set out to do, but I get around to most of it. Consequently, I have fewer regrets about how I spend my time and less need for the same old resolutions spurred by what I wish I’d done.
I still plan to lose two pounds of cookies and do strength training more consistently. And I will. I still want to be kinder, more patient, less critical, and more grateful. I’ll work on that, too. But this year, I’m saying goodbye to the yearly cycle of regrets and resolutions.
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8 responses to “Resolved: Nothing”
I have also discovered this “block” approach to scheduling. I made tentative starts with it a few months before the New Year. Your post draws my attention to making the approach a bit more refined.
This comes at a time when I am tentatively and not too enthusiastically exploring the “new” WordPress editor, Gutenburg.
Synergy.
I have the same reaction to Gutenberg . . .
Thx for framing this up in such a positive, easy-going way. I, too, hope for fewer regrets and a greater sense that I’ve accomplished things without having to constantly drive (force?) myself to do so.
Keeping a weekly schedule is an indirect approach to goal setting—but it works for me! So nice to see you Friday.
Sounds like a wise decision to me!
Great approach to scheduling fun and fitting in the drudgery as required instead of the other way around. I keep a calendar/diary at home and note positive things I’ve done (books read, stories submitted, movies seen, skating on the Rideau Canal, vacations, etc.) Your approach though is proactive, not haphazard like mine. Good on you!
I don’t know why it took me so long to figure it out!
Good idea…I agree!