• Capturing the Moment

    Since getting my iPhone, I’ve begun taking tons of photos, especially when I’m vacationing. During the nine days I was in Kauai I took 361 photos—mostly of scenery and quirky objects, occasionally of my companions.

    Near Kilauea lighthouse
    near Kilauea lighthouse
    Tiny shrine under banyan tree at Hindu monastery
    Tiny shrine under banyan tree at Hindu monastery

    That’s about 40 per day. Why not? It’s fun. Taking pictures has become a way of heightening the experience. Documenting and remembering it. But sometimes I wonder: when I’m focusing and framing shots, am I more in the moment or less?

    There’s something acquisitive about taking pictures.

    Click. There. Now I’ve got it. This moment and this place are mine. I can revisit them whenever I want. I’m hoarding a treasure of memories. At some future point, seeing this vista, cool object, or time with friends may be just the tonic I need.

    Of course I've got a beachy sunset photo -- it's Hawaii!
    Of course I’ve got a beachy sunset photo — it’s Hawaii!

    Initially, I might share a handful of photos on Facebook. Snap a funny scene and text it to a friend. After I return from a trip, I fuss with the photos in Photoshop, cropping them or adjusting the lighting. It’s a second way of enjoying the sights. Sometimes I create screensavers. Once in a while I make a printed calendar.

    Surfboard fence in Hanalei
    Surfboard fence in Hanalei

    Having photos allows me to relive the good times. Except that after my first wave of enthusiasm, I rarely do.

    Bird of paradise at Allerton McBryde Gardens
    Bird of paradise at Allerton McBryde Gardens

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    At least my photos are easy to store.

    I’m grateful that I don’t have to deal with storing my collection. I think of the albums and boxes of pictures my parents had. Some of them are precious—that’s our history. My three siblings and I lined up in front of the tulip garden at Easter. There we are sprawled in swimsuits on the dock at Lake James.

    But the photos from when my parents were in Hawaii? I’m glad they had the experience, but the images mean very little to me. I wasn’t there. I don’t know the stories. Is there any reason to save those prints now that my parents are gone? Similarly, my Hawaii photos won’t mean anything to my kids either. They weren’t there.

    Fortunately, my fascination with photography doesn’t require much effort or upkeep. As long as I have loads of gigabytes, digital photos are easy to keep.

    There’s one picture I didn’t take in Kauai.

    In Hanapepe, they have a Friday night art gallery crawl. At 6:30, it was dark except for a few streetlights and the lights from shops. The air was cooling but the breeze was still gentle. A dozen shops opened their doors and a handful of food trucks gathered. Several musicians performed here and there—folk music and traditional Hawaiian music.

    An old black pickup truck was parked under a streetlight. The front of it was painted with orange and yellow flames. Hot pink bougainvillea bushes were planted in the truck bed and they bloomed lavishly. Alongside the truck, a woman in a lawn chair was making leis.

    I really wanted to take that photo, but it seemed wrong. Did I have the right to the photo if I didn’t want to buy the lei? Probably didn’t matter. People must do it all the time. That truck is meant to attract attention. Specifically, tourists’ attention.

    After a while, she got up and shook some flowers from the tree behind the truck. Had a cigarette. A friend of hers stopped by with a brown bag of food.

    I let the moment pass. It was too dark for my phone’s camera. It wouldn’t have seen all the color and details my eyes registered during the 20 minutes that I sat on the curb across the street from her eating spicy chicken curry.

    I appreciate both kinds of images—the photos because they can trigger a story and the remembered images that have become vivid because I found the words to turn them into stories.

    Both bring wonderful experiences to mind.

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    6 responses to “Capturing the Moment”

    1. ns Avatar

      I definitely can relate to this, Ellen! Great shots!

    2. Pam Avatar
      Pam

      I agree with your premise–that we spend more time thinking about the photo than we do the moment. But there is something so satisfying about the immediacy of the photo op. All of the pictures you posted were keepers! And I think that your kids WILL want to cherish them as much as I cherish my grandmother’s letters from her European trip. Different media, but just as cherish-able. Thanks for sharing!

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        I LOVE taking photos in the immediacy of the moment and I have no plans to stop. It IS so much fun. But if I don’t or can’t snap the photo, the other way of capturing the moment still works pretty well too!

    3. margo Avatar
      margo

      “Please, come sit down next to me and let me show you my phone. I promise I will stop after 6 photos.” 🙂 Please

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        We could have a phone photo fest and whoever falls asleep first wins 😉

  • Don’t Open The Brown Paper Bag Next To The Ice Cream

    187f3776-4747-421f-b7b6-2ff156d465b2_400[1]“You’ll take care of the body?” she asked gently.

    “It’s going next to the ice cream in the freezer,” I told her.

    She chuckled.

    I had thought about putting our cat Angel in the shed until the ground thawed out. But that seemed insensitive and physically too far away until she was put to rest in our backyard. Of course, I could have had him cremated. But I didn’t want to. Yes, cost was part of it though I didn’t even look up how much it was. More than that, it seemed weird to have one animal cremated and not the rest.

    Yes, we have a few animals buried in our yard. I should ask for a discount from MN Pets – our go-to place for euthanizing an animal in our home. They do such a good job at it. Angel will make it one dog, four cats. MN Pets sends us a Christmas card each year.

    With Angel’s departure we are now at our city’s limit for how many animals residents can legally have — five total. We have two four-legged cats, one three-legged cat and two dogs.

    Though I did tell Buddy, our dog, that if he wasn’t careful, I’d make it a twofer. The vet wasn’t sure what to make of my joking.

    She didn’t know that we had been waiting for Angel to die for a long, long time. He was the energizer cat that went and went and went for 18 years. I’ve never had a pet that lived that long.

    Angel was my buddy. He’d meet me at the door when I came home from work and come sit with me every morning. He was MY cat.

    R.I.P. Angel
    R.I.P. Angel

    He was also the reason we had so many cat brushes around. That was our time together. I told Angel, that I would know it was his time when the day came that he didn’t want me to brush him. And, sadly, that day did come.

    I made an appointment with MN Pets for a Monday so all of us could have the weekend with Angel. I quickly changed it to Saturday when it became clear that waiting for Monday wasn’t the loving thing to do.

    Angel isn’t the first animal I’ve kept in the freezer until the ground thawed. And, he may not be the last. What else do you do in Minnesota when a pet dies in the winter? Thankfully, we have small dogs. A German Shepard or full grown lab would take up too much room.

    Having the cat in the freezer is working out okay. It just freaks out Antonio and Crystel’s friends when they tell them not to open up the paper bag next to the ice cream.

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    4 responses to “Don’t Open The Brown Paper Bag Next To The Ice Cream”

    1. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Oh, dear, so sad to say goodbye. 😦 But he is still around at the same time, I guess. I can’t imagine how tough that must be for you. I think you are very brave.

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you Eliza for always reading and posting. Happiness, joy, and sadness mixed together.

    2. Carol Avatar
      Carol

      I am so sorry Angel is gone. Hugs, my friend.

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you, Carol. Sadness and joy together.

  • L O V E was TATTOOED on his RIGHT KNUCKLES

    love_hateH A T E on his left.

    “Do you have any questions?” I asked him.

    “Yeah,” he paused. “What’s this ‘no loose jewelry’?”

    I shut the new employee production orientation guide.

    The manufacturing company where I work as a Human Resources Manager is a packaging manufacturer. We make paper and plastic bags. On the plant floor, hairnets are mandatory. Another rule is no rings, loose jewelry, or loose clothing.

    He added with dismay, “My dad made me take my nose piercings out and they have already closed.”

    Large black circles were stretching his earlobes. He had post piercings under his lip.

    “Usually, the Production Manager, decides what’s acceptable,” I said. When I saw the look on his face, I quickly added, “But, since that’s your dad, I’ll have the Quality Manager come down and look at you. She’ll tell us what’s okay.”

    He sighed with relief.

    “I’ve got long hair but I keep it under my stocking hat.”

    “When you’re around the machines you need to keep it tucked in. Just like if you’re wearing a hoodie you can’t have the strings dangling. It’ll pull you into the machine,” I warned.

    He shuddered. “I need to use my hands to do crafts.”

    While we waited for the Quality Manager he told me that he would be turning 19 next month. This was his first manufacturing job. He wanted to make sure that he understood the rules because he wanted to do everything right.

    “You need to be here on every scheduled work day,” I said. “No lates, no absences.” I repeated again for emphasis, “You have to be squeaky clean for your first 90 days. Is there anything you have scheduled?”

    He thought for a moment, then said, “I’d like to have February 14th off. I’m old fashioned like that.”

    I shrugged. “Fair enough. I’ll make sure they have it down that you are approved for that day off.”

    The Quality Manager came in the room. She looked him over.

    83589021“What other piercings do you have?” I asked. Then I shook my head quickly and put up my hands. “I don’t need to know about any of the piercing you have under your clothes, just what would be showing.”

    “I have a piercing on my eyebrow that I’d like to keep on if I could,” he said. He pulled out an Altoids box and opened it. He reached for a straight pin.

    The Quality Manager asked him to put it on. She studied him for a moment, then determined that it wouldn’t be in danger of falling into a machine and that his safety glasses covered the piercing.

    She explained that it wasn’t just about the piercings falling into the machines but also the customers that came through the plant.

    I spent 5 hours in orientation with this new employee. He changed me. If I would have passed him on the sidewalk – he adorned with his tattoos and piercings and dressed in all black – I would have been anxious.

    But this young man was courteous, respectful, caring, and wanted to present his best self. Underneath all the ‘stuff’ he was gentle.

    I told his dad the next day that sometimes it takes a few years for our outsides to match our insides. I know it did for me.

     

     

     

     

     

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    3 responses to “L O V E was TATTOOED on his RIGHT KNUCKLES”

    1. passthebubblewrap Avatar

      I’m 42 years old, a primary school teacher and have lots of tattoos. The ones on my forearms are very obvious. Sometimes the art is to hide the real scars. Cheers, Jo. X

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you, Jo. I hear you. Been there myself.

    2. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Great post, thanks, it speaks volumes.


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