• What’s in a Nickname?

    In Great Britain, more than 120,000 online voters recently suggested “Boaty McBoatface” as the name for a British polar research ship. The Science Ministry in Britain overruled the popular choice, choosing instead to name the ship after naturalist and broadcaster Sir David Attenborough. Although I loved the silliness of “Boaty McBoatface,” I wasn’t surprised it didn’t make the cut. But it did remind me of the power and persistence of nicknames.

    Some nicknames are just plain stupid and annoying like the ones I was given in high school. And no, I’m not giving them new life here! Other nicknames are mocking and hurtful. I never knowingly bestow those names. If I know that someone dislikes one of my nicknames, I try to drop it.

    But for me, nicknames are sign of affection—a name I give someone to acknowledge our special connection. Or they can also be a humorous name for a car or pet. For example, my ’67 Chevy BelAir was “the Blue Whale,” because it was enormous. Sometimes we called my collie Tasha, “Slosha,” because of the way she dripped all over the floor when drinking.

    When I was growing up, nicknames were common in my family, and my father originated most of them. They were affectionate (or at worst, teasing) and often nonsensical. I don’t know why he called my oldest brother, who certainly wasn’t smelly, “Big Barnsmell.” None of the rest of us called him that, so my brother tolerated the name with good grace. Dad called my next brother, “Sport,” which at least made sense, because that brother was athletic.

    Sport called me “Snickersnee” because of my sneezing and allergies. Eventually that was shortened to “Snee” or “Snee Baby.”

    After hearing my oldest niece call her younger sister, “Shorty,” I adopted that nickname for my younger sister, because she’s several inches taller than me. Stupid, I know, for a grown woman to call her younger sister “Shorty,” but I’ve done it for years and she’s never smacked me. Lately she’s taken to calling me “Shellen.” Aside from the rhyme, I’m not sure why she’s given me that name, but I’m OK with it.

    My siblings and I also had nicknames for my father although we didn’t always say them to his face—“Big D” for Dad or Don (his first name).

    It was probably inevitable that I’d have nicknames for my sons. I’ll spare you (and them) the dippiest names, which tended to be variations on their first names. However, during his middle years, I called my youngest, “Larry Bob,” which had nothing to do with his real name, but it sort of went with the goofier side of his personality.

    When our sons got muscles and grew half a foot taller than me, I began calling them “Otis” and “The Other Otis”—kind of like calling them, “You big galoot”—a teasing way to acknowledge how much bigger they are than me. So far, they’ve tolerated it pretty well. No doubt they have names for me too.

    Do you use nicknames for your family and friends? How about your car? Pets?

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    4 responses to “What’s in a Nickname?”

    1. Eliza Waters Avatar

      My father called me Bette Boop when I was very young. I didn’t discover who she was until I was grown up. My first car was Bessie. My niece’s car was Talulah (love that one). I had a cat that I named Lily, but she had many names over her 17 years – Miss Lily Louise, Missy, Lily Lou, Louise and finally, Weezie. She never seemed bothered by her name name changes though!

    2. Pam Avatar
      Pam

      How could I forget Mavis the Maverick, or the opal Cadet we called The Bean?

    3. Pam Avatar
      Pam

      Luna the cat became Tuna, Tunes, and Fishy. The black Subaru was El Presidente and the silver Toyota was Sylvia Plath. The first car I ever owned was a red Subaru, Maybelline. I could go on…

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Yes, Raeburn Dearie, I remember Maybelline as well as Ellen of the Prairie, etc.!

  • The Dead Cat is Out of the Freezer

    IMG_0493Seasons change, and so it is time.

    We have a small window to perform our ceremony – in between the comings and goings of teenagers.

    A line forms and we sing “Amazing Grace” while walking to the burial place in the corner of the yard. Our daughter and her friend dug the hole earlier. To make sure it was big enough they placed Trouble the dog in the hole but he quickly jumped out.

    Seasons have changed for the children as well. A Cub Scout is now a Boy Scout who will be doing his Eagle project on Saturday. A small girl, who was always the first to jump into the swimming pool, is still the first to try most things in our house.

    Our procession takes us underneath the flowering crabapple. The sweet scent follows. I lay down the paper bag holding our beloved.

    There is a discussion about whether to bury Angel in the shirt that he is wrapped in. I kneel, gently cover his black and white face with the fabric so dirt won’t fall into his eyes. My stomach constricts. I straighten. Jody hands the girl the shovel.

    There was a day when the children were ten months old that I thought they would be that age forever. I could not see past that day to this one. Parenting was hard work. Parenting was demanding. It still is, but in a different way. Now I need to stay attuned to who they are, what they are doing. I can’t be any less present. Because I need to be there if only to say, I see you. I am watching you. Give me your phone.

    After our ceremony, as they are rushing off, I pull down the branches of the apple tree and smell the white flowers that within days will fall off the branches.

    I want to shout to the children’s departing backs that I’ll never give up. No matter how hard parenting may become, I’ll never give up.

    Angel our cat is gone. He had a good life. I have a good life. And, you are worth it.

     

    One response to “The Dead Cat is Out of the Freezer”

    1. Eliza Waters Avatar

      A touching essay on the ever-changing landscape of life, Elizabeth. It is a river carrying us along, we only need to enjoy the ride. RIP Angel.

  • Defensive Landscaping

    In late April and early May, my mind is abuzz with gardening and landscaping plans. I research plants, dream up color schemes, make lists, haunt garden centers, and chart the hours of sunlight for my new garden—yep, I’m hardcore. In years past when I had a large suburban lot, my focus was on what to do with all that space.

    One of our four large gardens in the suburbs
    One of our four large gardens in the suburbs

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Now that I live in the city and have a very small yard (intentionally), I focus on defensive landscaping—how to create something attractive to camouflage undesirable views, including those of my much closer neighbors’ yards.

    1. Create an inspiring view for my office window.
    My current view
    My current view

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    What if I had a silver moon clematis growing on a trellis by the garage?
    What if I had a silver moon clematis growing on a trellis by the garage?

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    1. Cover up my neighbor’s deteriorating garage.
    Sigh
    Sigh

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Maybe a columnar birch would camouflage the neighbor's garage.
    Maybe a columnar birch would camouflage the neighbor’s garage.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    1. Add native grasses to screen the view of the alley.
    John's new fence adds some privacy.
    John’s new fence adds some privacy.

     

     

     

     

     

     

    What if we added clumps of feather reed grass along the fence like this?
    What if we added clumps of feather reed grass along the fence like this?

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    In April everything seems possible. By August, it’s all over. But if this year’s plan doesn’t turn out as great I’m picturing, there’s always next year!

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    9 responses to “Defensive Landscaping”

    1. […] No doubt, future tourists leaning across the velvet rope blocking entrance to my office will say, “Ooooh, that’s where Ellen used to write! There’s the honey locust she used to look at while she wrote, and there’s the sad clematis on the too-big trellis—remember her blog about defensive landscaping?”  […]

    2. […] via Defensive Landscaping — WordSisters […]

    3. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Great ideas, Ellen. Wishing you the best of luck this planting season!

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Thanks! In April, I always am so optimistic and believe the plants will actually look like the pictures on the plant ID cards 😉

        1. Eliza Waters Avatar

          I know what you mean!

    4. bbachel Avatar

      Right now I’m worried that I’m the one with the yard spoiling my neighbor’s view so thanks for the inspiration.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Nah, I’m sure that’s not true . . . unless your garage looks like my neighbor’s!

    5. Cynthia Kraack Avatar
      Cynthia Kraack

      All good thoughts, Ellen. Fun dreaming.

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        You’ll have to see how it looks in a few months . . .


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