On summer mornings, I walk early. Sun filters through shade trees and the humid air is soft. A light breeze stirs as I circle the neighborhood enjoying the assortment of landscaping styles. In Minneapolis, the boulevard next to the street is often the focus for self-expression.
Tidy mown boulevards are uncommon
With native plants, nature takes its course
An offering of gentle inspiration
When it comes to gardens, more is more
Lost the plot—sometimes the vision gives way to busy reality
Bone box—a welcoming community
Nature put it there and Nature can take it away (because I’m not gonna)
Not feeling like parades this year. Will let the poem posted
on the Statue of Liberty remind us about why this country
was founded.
The New Colossus
Not like the brazen giant of Greek fame, With conquering limbs astride from land to land; Here at our sea-washed, sunset gates shall stand A mighty woman with a torch, whose flame Is the imprisoned lightning, and her name Mother of Exiles. From her beacon-hand Glows world-wide welcome; her mild eyes command The air-bridged harbor that twin cities frame. “Keep, ancient lands, your storied pomp!” cries she With silent lips. “Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, The wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tost to me, I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”
A spontaneous phone call from with a close friend or family member is a nice surprise. Depending on who it is, we might chat about upcoming plans, air out concerns (kids, siblings, work, the country), discuss a plant I’m excited about, describe a meal that turned out way better than expected, or grumble about how hard it is to find shoes that fit.
After a good talk, I feel closer to the person and buoyed by our connection. I think the habit developed years ago when I lived 16 hours away from family and friends. Then the calls nourished and re-centered me. They were the logical extension to my in-person conversations—I definitely got the Shriner talk gene.
Recently, a few friends and family members have started asking to schedule a time to talk instead of trying our luck. That surprised me, since I like spontaneity. For some people, it’s a way of saying our conversation is important—let’s make sure we don’t miss each other. For others, it’s about being in different time zones. Fair enough.
But here’s the thing—I’ve also discovered unscheduled phone calls can irritate some people or make them anxious. There are varied reasons for this:
– Some rely on texting for casual chatting. A call signals trouble (Uh oh, what’s the matter?) Yikes! That never occurred to me since I prefer a call to a text.Calling offers nuance. Sarcasm, sympathy, irritation, worry, and amusement are easy to convey in a person’s tone of voice, but with texting, emojis have to do the heavy lifting of communicating emotional content.
– A spontaneous phone call may seem intrusive. Well, it can be. If I’m making dinner, working in the yard, or on a walk with my husband, I might not want to be interrupted. Then I let voicemail signal, “Not now.” If I make an impromptu call, I never assume the recipient has time to chat. I always ask if my call is convenient. If not, no worries! We’ll connect another time.
– Texting to request a call time is now seen as more polite. The recipient will be spared the potential awkwardness or discomfort of saying, “Now isn’t a good time.” It took me a while to wrap my head around that idea, since I’m comfortable telling a caller I can’t talk if I’m in the middle of something. Or I just let the call go to voicemail. Apparently, that reaction isn’t universal.
Scheduled vs. spontaneous phone calls? It seems to be a stylistic difference, maybe even a generational one. I have my preferences, but the goal is to connect, so I want to be sensitive to others’ needs and adjust if it improves our communication.
But if you’re thinking of me, just give me a call! I’ll let you know if I can’t talk.
I’m with you on this one. I’ve always thought the nicest thing about answering machines is knowing that the person I’m calling doesn’t have to answer if it’s not a convenient time. I don’t think that a text is nearly as personal or satisfying as actually hearing someone’s voice!
I appreciate your perspective. I do think some of this is generational—that what to Boomers feels ordinary can feel harder for younger people to deal with. Knowing that, I’m more aware of their sensitivities and try to adjust my habits.
‘Reach out and touch someone’ 😉 … I get both sides, but I like spontaneous calls. And like you, caller ID and voicemail help determine whether I have time to chat or not. My sisters and I have long conversations, often around an hour. We could go on and on, but it is often one of us having to visit the bathroom that ends the call, lol!
My sister is one of the people I can easily talk to for an hour! 😆
Sally Showalter
I have to agree with the rationale on yesterday’s type of phone calls vs. today. I find myself texting to schedule a phone call. I will always prefer a voice. Thank you for your thoughts!
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8 responses to “Freestyle Boulevards”
Thx for sharing. Made me more aware of the blvds in my hood, many of which I pass with barely a notice.
I take a lot of early morning walks and have really noticed how varied the blvds are. Thanks for commenting 😁
Enjoyed this creativity!
Thank you!
Sweet! I picture your neighborhood and recall the walks we’ve taken there. The photos show just how interesting and welcoming the area is. Love it!
Lots of personality!
Cool neighborhood. I esp. like the bone box and water pail 🥰
Although we no longer have a dog, I really like the idea and the sense of community it inspires.