• Staycation Therapy

    While driving to my class in downtown Minneapolis, I passed a young woman riding a six-foot high blue bike. How’d she get up there? On a different day, I noticed another woman creating a large chalk drawing on an overpass sidewalk. How generous to put so much effort into something so temporary. Yesterday, I saw cyclist riding hands-free and joyfully playing the air drums. What song was he hearing in his head? I really like the lively energy of my neighborhood, but I don’t feel completely at home yet.

    IMG_1340It’s hard to explain. My husband and I have been in our new smaller house for close to a year. The rooms are comfortable and attractive. The garden and yard are just the right size. I know where everything is, but something about it still feels like temporary housing. This is where I’m staying, but I don’t have a deep sense of home yet.

    John felt at home here even before we moved. The house reminds him of his grandmother’s house and the first house he lived in, so it’s familiar. When he moved out on his own, he chose duplexes from the same era as our house. His collage of memories immediately made this place feel right.

    What attracted me to the house were the kitchen’s old-fashioned flour bin and the tall narrow cupboards, like those in my grandmother’s kitchen. I think of Mimmie in her homemade apron, frosting banana cupcakes and teaching me how to doctor up mayonnaise for egg salad.

    The house and I are still getting to know each other.

    It’s more than seeing a home in all four seasons, though that’s part of it—how the living room dims by 4:30 on winter afternoons, how sunny the deck is before the trees leaf out in spring, how light fills our bedroom at 5:30 on summer mornings. IMG_1343

    You also make a place yours by the repetition of ordinary activities: wiping the counters, passing dings in the wall as you run up the stairs, and walking around in the dark without bumping into things.

    Carrying over traditions from the old house to the new one helps, too. We’ve celebrated Christmas, Easter, and several birthdays here. Even better are the impromptu gatherings when our sons drop by and we pull out several kinds of leftovers and beer—a feast!

    When I realized that I still feel faintly unsettled, I decided a staycation would help—simply be here day in and day out for 11 days. So far, so good.

    A friend, who grew up in a military family and moved every three years, says that every time she moved she was reminded that it takes a full year to fully feel at home. After 365 days have passed, something clicks and then it becomes your place.

    I’m heartened by her wisdom and trust that, in time, I’ll be completely at home here.

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    4 responses to “Staycation Therapy”

    1. bbachel Avatar
      bbachel

      Even if you’re not entirely at home in the new house, it’s clear you are at home writing your blog. Loved this post.

    2. Pamela Gemin Avatar
      Pamela Gemin

      When we moved out west from Wisconsin amount two years ago, the first six months was like being on vacation in an exciting new city. Only now do I know for sure which light switches connect to which lights, but “home” does settle into the walls. Very evocative essay!

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        I’m so glad you understand

  • “Been Doing It For 28 Years. They Can Plant Me Here”

    Joe
    Joe Glaccum

    I’m talking with Joe Glaccum, Director of Services for Many Point Scout Camp. “Always been a food man,” he says. “This has been my calling.”

    Antonio and I are at Many Point for a week- long adventure with Troop 110 from Minneapolis.

    This calling of Joe’s is providing 128,000 meals each summer to over 250 troops from numerous councils across the United States and Canada.

    Many Point provides all of the meals, but the preparation varies based on the subcamp that you choose.

    Commissary and dining hall service is offered.

    A combination of commissary and dining hall service, which is what Antonio’s troop chooses, means the camp provides all of the ingredients for breakfast and lunch and the patrol prepares it themselves. The evening meal is delivered cooked from the Dining Hall in a hot stack and ready to serve.

    Joe pointing out the special diet shelf.
    Gluten, nut, dairy, vegetarian, and religious needs cared for at Many Point

     

    Substitutions can be made for gluten, nut and dairy allergies as well as vegetarian and religious observances.

    In our group of 19 scouts and 3 adults there are three vegetarians.

    Joe speaks in a deep gravelly voice. I rush to write what he’s saying. I’m in the presence of a sage.

    “You must be college educated,” I say. Though I know it isn’t true. A person knows when they are sitting in the midst of experience.

    “I’ve been hit on the head so many times that I listen,” he exclaims. “Each patrol will fill out a review at the end of the week. I read each and every one of them.”

    He goes on to say that a key to his success is having a menu that is extremely liked by the boys and one that adults will accept.

    I think back over the meals I’ve eaten. Eggs, sausages, pancakes, hamburgers, hotdogs, macaroni salad, grilled cheese, tomato soup, etc…. and I agree. No one in our troop has gone away hungry. There has also been an abundance of apples, oranges, cantaloupes, etc…..

    For those Scouts who might be a bit more particular there is a milk crate of staples that each patrol receives at the beginning of the week and can be replenished. Inside the crate, packed in a specific way is a roll of paper towels, ketchup, mustard, peanut butter, jelly, ramen noodles, oatmeal, brown sugar, dish soap, salt and pepper, packet of sanitizer tablets, matches, garbage bags and a scrubby for washing dishes.

    Joe has 12 people working for him.

    Items are placed in each crate the same way. Crates are color coded for size of patrol.
    Items are placed in each crate the same way. Crates are color coded for size of patrol.

    In 28 years his most major improvement is that he systemized everything. I recognize it as the 5S pillars, Sort, Set in Order, Shine, Standardize, and Sustain.

    “In the early days, the commissary was a huge store. The only trading post on the property. Each troop would come to the store once a week and put in their order.”

    He chuckles. “Red Owl ran it for one year. Lost their shirts. Never came up again.”

    Joe still remembers his busiest year. It was 2001. “I was business manager, trading post director, services directory, commissary director, and driver. I worked 16 hour days, 7 days a week. I loved it.”

    His staff returns year after year. “It’s a very rewarding workplace. I hire good people. I let them do their job. I ask questions – that is all.”

    July 16 2015 421He emphasizes, “I have a really great crew. As long as my brain functions I can do this job.”

    He’s been on 5-year plan since 1987. “Next year I plan to renew it for 5 more years”, he says.

    Our conversation is interrupted by a phone call. He needs to leave. He has 99 patrols to feed next week and he’s tweaking the menu for next year. The lettuce salad that we had last night wasn’t the home run he was looking for.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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  • Bookstores Beat Amazon for Browsing

    I love that I can zero in on several pairs of cool shoes on Zappos that will fit my hard-to-fit feet. Yippee! The Internet brings me things I can’t find locally. Problem solved! I have happily spent time searching for deals in the clearance sections on Banana Republic, JJill and Macy’s websites (usually when I should have been doing something else). Score—70% off! But I do not love browsing on Amazon to find books I might enjoy. For that, nothing replaces the sense of discovery and delight I experience in brick and mortar bookstores like Magers & Quinn, Common Good Books, or Subtext.

    Amazon’s “Recommended for You” algorithm is too simplistic. Just because I recently read a book about the Holocaust doesn’t mean I want to read three more books on that subject. At least not right now.

    The trouble is—I don’t always know what I want to read. Until I picked up Praying Drunk, a collection of short stories by Kyle Minor and One of Us, a novel by Tawni O’Dell that’s set in Kentucky coal country, I didn’t know I would enjoy them.

    Magers & Quinn
    Magers & Quinn

    Browsing in a bookstore is almost meditative. I give my mind and feet permission to wander and I open myself to discovering what’s there. When I find a good book that wasn’t on anybody’s bestseller list, it’s a pleasure. The title or cover lures me. After reading a few pages, there’s a moment of victory, “Yes! This one will be good.” I feel inordinately lucky. It isn’t just a book. It’s a good read—sometimes a journey to an interesting place. Other times it’s a respite from a bad week.

    If I find a book, I buy it, but often I am torn. I also love to read ebooks. I can read in bed without turning on a light and bothering my husband. I can carry 10 pounds of books in a 1-pound device when I’m traveling. Unfortunately, ebooks lead me to Amazon. Buying there just hastens the demise of all those independent bookstores that I love. If independent bookstores could offer books in either paper or digital form, I’d gladly buy my ebooks from them. They’ve earned the sale by giving me a great experience. Amazon is procurement, not browsing. Visiting a bookstore is an adventure.

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    2 responses to “Bookstores Beat Amazon for Browsing”

    1. Eliza Waters Avatar

      I can totally lose track of time in a bookstore! I am a big fan of the printed word vs. digital reads, but I understand the convenience. Does your library offer digital rentals? My spouse regularly reads books this way. It may not result in a sale for the author, but it would keep you out of Amazon. 🙂

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        Great comment! Actually, I do all three–buy paper, buy electronic, get electronic from the library.


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