• A 12-Year-Old Girl Following Her Dreams

    At the Wedding. Touching a Cello for the first time.
    At the Wedding. Touching a Cello for the first time.

    She says she’s going to Juilliard. Who am I to say she isn’t? Right now she’s in her bedroom playing cello for the second time in her life. The first time was last night at a wedding. She approached the cello player, who then invited her to sit down, and showed Crystel how to hold the stringed instrument. Within minutes she had Crystel strumming, Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.

    Today, within an hour of bringing home the cello from Schmitt’s, I recognize Amazing Grace coming from her bedroom.

    Crystel has wanted to play the cello for eight months. She’s played piano for five years and flute for one. Sometimes, I’m not sure how serious she is about an endeavor or if she is just trying to be the only one doing something. There is no cello player at Richfield Middle School. Her mother (me) doesn’t even know how to pronounce the instrument correctly.

    To gauge her seriousness Crystel had to do at least three things. Stop wearing her socks outside without shoes. Figure out the cost of renting a cello and taking lessons. Decide where that money was going to come from.

    Being sized at Schmitt's.
    Being sized at Schmitt’s.

    “You know what I see, Crystel?” I’d say, when I’d see her outside, once again, wearing only her socks.

    “What?” She’d respond with a blank look.

    I’d nod at her feet. “A nice looking sello.”

    “Chel-oh, Mom, chel-oh. Not sello.”

    I explained to her that it wasn’t about the socks. It’s that her parents told her time and time again that shoes outside was important to them and that she continued to disregard our request. “How can we know that you can take care of a sello …. ah … I mean, chello, if you can’t follow a simple request?”

    After learning the cost for renting a cello and getting lessons, it didn’t bother me about the socks. I’d think, “That’s right, just keep wearing them outside, girlfriend.”

    All the while, Crystel has continued to play piano and take lessons. National Piano Playing Auditions gave her a superior rating. Her distinction was Top-Talent Circle rating which means that she could appear before any audience anywhere. Right now, she plays once a month at a soup kitchen.

    ah, my cello
    ah, my cello

    I know she is passionate about piano because Jody and I never have to ask her to practice. On many occasions, the piano is the last thing she touches before leaving the house. We can hear her rushing out a melody while we are waiting for her in the car. It’s like she has to have a tune in her head to carry her to her next activity.

    A few months ago, I started noticing that she was putting shoes on before going outside. They were MY shoes but they were shoes nevertheless.

    Is she going to go to Julliard? I don’t know. But, one thing I learned about my daughter, is that when she’s decided that she’s going to do something, she does it. At 3-years-old she couldn’t speak intelligibly. Only Antonio knew what she was saying. She went on to become fluent in several languages: English, Spanish, and music.

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    3 responses to “A 12-Year-Old Girl Following Her Dreams”

    1. Carol Avatar
      Carol

      An inspiring story. Thank you for sharing Beth. Way to go, Crystel!!

    2. Scott Stone Avatar

      We found Harry a pretty good quality Cello for about $200. It was a bargain, probably worth more like $1000. But if you buy her a Cello it will pay for itself over the $50-$60 per month rental fee.

      http://minneapolis.craigslist.org/search/sss?sort=rel&query=cello+4%2F4

    3. Ann Helm Avatar
      Ann Helm

      I love this so much!!!!

  • Grammar Insecurity Is Alive and Well

    While visiting with my former neighbors, one of them asked me to explain how to use semicolons. As a writer and former writing teacher, I’ve got that one covered. However, her question opened the floodgates. It turns out that the majority of these smart, well-educated people harbor a secret fear of embarrassing themselves, because they aren’t well versed in some fine point of grammar, punctuation, or word choice.

    How does grammar insecurity get started?

    I picture some picky 7th grade English teacher or stern editor shaming writers so they feel incompetent. I’m not immune to that fear either—people expect more of you when you write for a living. Although I like correct grammar, punctuation, spelling, and word choice, I’m philosophical about the inevitable errors.

    Screen Shot 2015-08-05 at 10.05.02 PMHere’s a secret—the experts don’t agree on the rules.

    For example, the rules about comma use depend on what style is being used. If you’re a journalist who follows the Associated Press Stylebook, you omit the comma before “and” when punctuating a list or series. But if you’re an English teacher who teaches the Modern Language Association Style Guide or a journalist taught to follow the Chicago Manual of Style, you would use the serial comma (also known as the Oxford comma). No wonder people get confused about commas!

    I’m a big fan of the Oxford comma. This example from Captain Grammar Pants illustrates why I prefer it:

    This book is dedicated to my parents, Ayn Rand and God.

    (It’s unlikely the author meant that his or her parents are Ayn Rand and God,                          but without a comma after Rand, the meaning isn’t clear.)

    This book is dedicated to my parents, Ayn Rand, and God.

    (Better! Now all I’m wondering about is why the author is enamored of Any Rand . . .)

    The next example isn’t about serial commas, but it’s too much fun to resist:

    Let’s eat Grandma!

    (How’d Grandma get on the menu?!?)

    Let’s eat, Grandma!

    (Oh, thank goodness—she’s just being called to dinner.)

    The Comma Queen at The New Yorker provides even more insights about commas.

    Even when the experts agree on the rules, the rules change. Languages evolve over time.

    When I was in grade school, I’d get marked down for splitting an infinitive (the “to be” form of the verb):

    To boldly go (OMG—a split infinitive!)

    To go boldly (This version keeps both parts of the verb together but it sounds stupid.)

    These days few editors concern themselves with split infinitives. English has evolved. Old English turned into Middle English, which gave way to Shakespearean English and was eventually followed by Contemporary English. When was the last time you used “cozening” when you meant “cheating” (Shakespearean English) or “anon” when you meant “soon” (Old English)?

    Sharp-eyed readers may notice several errors in this blog. Yeah, I know. I was just testing you!

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    One response to “Grammar Insecurity Is Alive and Well”

    1. bbachel Avatar
      bbachel

      Talk about evolution. If you had told me a few years ago that I would be writing emails to professional colleagues using u instead of you and r instead of are (and that i would be doing so at their request), I wouldn’t have believed it.

  • Staycation Therapy

    While driving to my class in downtown Minneapolis, I passed a young woman riding a six-foot high blue bike. How’d she get up there? On a different day, I noticed another woman creating a large chalk drawing on an overpass sidewalk. How generous to put so much effort into something so temporary. Yesterday, I saw cyclist riding hands-free and joyfully playing the air drums. What song was he hearing in his head? I really like the lively energy of my neighborhood, but I don’t feel completely at home yet.

    IMG_1340It’s hard to explain. My husband and I have been in our new smaller house for close to a year. The rooms are comfortable and attractive. The garden and yard are just the right size. I know where everything is, but something about it still feels like temporary housing. This is where I’m staying, but I don’t have a deep sense of home yet.

    John felt at home here even before we moved. The house reminds him of his grandmother’s house and the first house he lived in, so it’s familiar. When he moved out on his own, he chose duplexes from the same era as our house. His collage of memories immediately made this place feel right.

    What attracted me to the house were the kitchen’s old-fashioned flour bin and the tall narrow cupboards, like those in my grandmother’s kitchen. I think of Mimmie in her homemade apron, frosting banana cupcakes and teaching me how to doctor up mayonnaise for egg salad.

    The house and I are still getting to know each other.

    It’s more than seeing a home in all four seasons, though that’s part of it—how the living room dims by 4:30 on winter afternoons, how sunny the deck is before the trees leaf out in spring, how light fills our bedroom at 5:30 on summer mornings. IMG_1343

    You also make a place yours by the repetition of ordinary activities: wiping the counters, passing dings in the wall as you run up the stairs, and walking around in the dark without bumping into things.

    Carrying over traditions from the old house to the new one helps, too. We’ve celebrated Christmas, Easter, and several birthdays here. Even better are the impromptu gatherings when our sons drop by and we pull out several kinds of leftovers and beer—a feast!

    When I realized that I still feel faintly unsettled, I decided a staycation would help—simply be here day in and day out for 11 days. So far, so good.

    A friend, who grew up in a military family and moved every three years, says that every time she moved she was reminded that it takes a full year to fully feel at home. After 365 days have passed, something clicks and then it becomes your place.

    I’m heartened by her wisdom and trust that, in time, I’ll be completely at home here.

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    4 responses to “Staycation Therapy”

    1. bbachel Avatar
      bbachel

      Even if you’re not entirely at home in the new house, it’s clear you are at home writing your blog. Loved this post.

    2. Pamela Gemin Avatar
      Pamela Gemin

      When we moved out west from Wisconsin amount two years ago, the first six months was like being on vacation in an exciting new city. Only now do I know for sure which light switches connect to which lights, but “home” does settle into the walls. Very evocative essay!

      1. Ellen Shriner Avatar

        I’m so glad you understand


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