• One Heck of a Hot Dog

    Volunteering with Jody and friends.

    It starts before we even leave the house. My breathing becomes short and rapid. I’m fidgety. “I’ll meet you in the car,” I tell her. I insert the key into the door lock.

    “You can’t hurry me,” Jody responds. “I’ve got 5 more minutes.”

    In the car we high five. “To a good game.”

    This cheer is needed. We will spend the next 6-10 hours together fundraising for Juan and Crystel’s education.

    Jody, Crystel, Juan and I began volunteering in April to serve food and beverage at concession stands. We’ve worked at the Excel Center, Target Center, US Bank, Allianz, Huntington Bank stadiums, Canterbury Park and others.

    “Did you just push me?” Jody asks as we step out of the elevator. I thought I was guiding her through the security gate towards the check-in stand.

    You learn a lot about yourself and each other at these events.

    I will be amped up until we return to the car for the ride home. I’m in a flight or fight mode to get the customer his/her/their slice of pizza, hot dog, chicken tenders, or fries.

    Jody feels the same adrenaline rush. We both become serious and determined. Sometimes we must remind ourselves, It’s just a hot dog.

    There is no bigger distraction or challenge than working an event. From the time the doors open, and you serve your first customer until the ball is touched in the 4th quarter, 3rd period, or the hour before the venue closes, you will do nothing else besides attending to the task in front of you.

    Usually, it’s a brief 20 second pleasant interaction with a customer.

    Sometimes it doesn’t go well.

    “Is this how big this all-beef hot dog is?” I was asked at the Vikings Cardinal game. The customer held high his still foiled hot dog. It did look especially small in his large fist.

    “Dude, I’m a volunteer. I don’t make the hotdog.” Don’t squeeze it, I wanted to add. You’ll just make it smaller.

    I’m not always at my best. At a Twins game, this guy and his two friends, who’d all had one too many, kept beeping the register scanner without waiting for his payment to go through. “Motherfucker, stop doing that,” I told him. He looked at me. I looked at him. “I guess I shouldn’t call you that,” I said. “I could get fired from my volunteer job.”

    It can get a little dicey at alcohol cutoff time when a customer isn’t ready to be cut off. At the Minnesota hockey game against North Dakota, a customer demanded that I call my boss. She knew about these things she said loudly. She had worked in concessions before. A hard cutoff was not really a hard cutoff.

    “I’m just a volunteer,” I said. I busied myself restocking as she explained to the concession managers how these things worked.

    Sitting in our living room, Jody and I will go over the event. Laughing until we cry. Sometimes it’s about how we acted towards each other during the evening. Me telling her how important it is that she marks a Twin burger a Twin burger and not a Capitol burger. She in turn will tell me that I need to stop putting the pizzas in the oven one after another as she doesn’t have enough time to take them off at the other end.

    The challenge, the unpredictability, volunteering with friends, and the variety of social groups we encounter make concession fundraising enjoyable.

    Not a bad way to spend an evening. This year, we are well on our way to raising tuition for both Juan and Crystel’s education. Now that’s one heck of a hotdog.

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    2 responses to “One Heck of a Hot Dog”

    1. Bonnie Campbell Avatar
      Bonnie Campbell

      Wow! That’s fabulous! I always thought it would be fun to usher at those events.

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Bonnie so good to hear from you! Thank you so much for your continuing reading of the blog!

  • Stuff Happening

    Climate change is moving ahead without human intervention. Even the Mighty Mississippi is drying up leaving commercial traffic stranded in low water. Record temps, record rains, record wild fires aren’t as easily resolved as heavy winter snow.

    But in the Midwest this fall, that same weather has meant beautiful lazy sunrises and warm days that give us opportunities for another walk, a bike ride, one last cookout. Sitting outside feeding grandbaby a bottle, the late morning sunshine feels even warmer without a leaf canopy. My arms store memories of bottles and burbs and giggles and books read in this chair during the second six months of her life.

    All is not easy on this idyllic day. There are difficult physical weeks ahead including the possibility of serious surgery. Except for C-sections and babies, I’ve never had surgery or stayed overnight in a hospital. A date is on the calendar for the initial stage of this process. Part of me is calm, almost relieved to know what must be done and how. Calm until about three in the morning when a busy mind chases down unknown alleys.

    Family and friends have had their times under anesthesia in 2022. One was the result of past athletic injuries, another fell, the others faced cancer with chemicals and radiation as well as surgery. For me to have sports-related surgery would be kind of funny. And I’m relieved to not be beginning the cancer battle. Most of us will face a few days in our lives wearing drafty cotton gowns and trying to sleep surrounded by noisy machines. I’d rather be crammed into a tight airline seat trying to sleep surrounded by noisy kids. That was not a choice.

    For now the seasonal discussions about who will be at Thanksgiving and what day is best for Christmas festivities have been displaced. Stuff is happening.

    3 responses to “Stuff Happening”

    1. Eliza Waters Avatar

      Ah, the 3 a.m. mind race, it gets one every time. Try this exercise (I do it to take my mind off things): Breathe slowly in for the count of 4, hold for 7, then release slowly for 8 counts. Repeat at least 5 times. Usually sends me right back to dreamland. 🙂

    2. Bev Bachel Avatar
      Bev Bachel

      I, too, would rather be crammed into a tight airline seat than face surgery. I will hold you and your health/body in my thoughts and prayers.

      1. cmkraack Avatar
        cmkraack

        Thank you, Bev. I appreciated your last blog as well.

  • Learning a New Language: Love

    “Every household has a first language, a kind of language of the home,” says Alex Kalman in The Art of Noticing: 131 Ways to Spark Creativity, Find Inspiration and Discover Joy in the Everyday.

    If that’s true, the language of the home I grew up in was chaos.

    My dad worked long hours in a Honeywell factory, assembling parts for our nation’s space program.

    Sometimes he came home after his 12-hour shift. Often, he went out drinking. Sometimes he got drunk. Occasionally bad things happened. Like the time a buddy who was driving plowed into the back of a parked car, sending my dad through the windshield and to the emergency room to have his scalp stitched back together.

    I learned about that the next morning when my mom sent me into my parents’ bedroom to wake my dad. I was in sixth grade at the time and, nearly 60 years later, can still picture his dried blood on my parents’ white sheets and the rows of stitches that ran up my dad’s forehead and into his balding scalp.

    There was also the time my dad drove his car off the road and into a house. And the many times he just didn’t come home. By then, he owned a neighborhood bar where he and his favorite customers often stayed drinking until the wee hours of the morning.

    And, no surprise, there were the frequent fights his drinking caused, fights he often didn’t remember but that I still find hard to forget.

    Although there’s a lot about our COVID-induced isolation that I resent, one thing I do appreciate is that it’s given me the time and space to think more deeply about the patterns of behavior I grew up with and which ones no longer serve me.

    Therapy and a supportive partner are a big help. So is Dr. Gary Chapman, whose work centers on helping people learn what he refers to as the five “love languages”:

    1. Affirming with words
    2. Giving gifts
    3. Offering physical touch
    4. Performing acts of service
    5. Spending quality time together

    Although I wish the language of my home would have been different when I was growing up, I’m working hard to make love its language–and mine–now.

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    3 responses to “Learning a New Language: Love

    1. Ann Coleman Avatar

      I think surviving any kind of childhood trauma requires honest introspection about what happened, how we reacted to it, and how we’ve allowed it to control our behavior and beliefs, even all these years later. Once we understand that, then we can make the changes that help us become so much happier and healthier. Good for you for doing that!!!

      1. Bev Bachel Avatar

        Thx for the support. It’s not always easy but I do believe the changes I’m working on now will lead to what you say…a happier and healthier future.

        1. Ann Coleman Avatar

          I believe that too! It will be hard at times, but if you keep going, you’ll get there!


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