• The Written iPhone Contract Is For Me – Not the Kids

    FullSizeRenderAntonio and Crystel started asking for an iPhone when they entered middle school. Having a flip phone was not cool.

    Jody and I made a deal with them. If they would get on the A/B honor roll for the entire school year they could have an iPhone.

    This verbal contract didn’t alleviate my job as a parent in knowing what their grades were. Facebook became second to SchoolView where I would check their grades and learn of any missing work.

    An M for missing homework was totally unacceptable. I let them know that an M meant that MOM would come to their classroom and sit next to them. I made good on that promise on three occasions during the school year for both middle-schoolers. I totally enjoyed the experience.

    It was amazing to me how Antonio and Crystel would skate a B- seemingly oblivious to the fact that it could drop to a C+ at any time.

    I mean, an iPhone was on the hook here.

    For three quarters both made the A/B honor roll by a slim margin.

    Mid-May, I was concerned that they might not make it the last quarter.

    FullSizeRender (3)That’s when I realized that the iPhone contract was for me. Would a C+ end up being acceptable? Would we get them an iPhone anyway?

    At this point, I wrote the verbal contract and had them sign it. I had to make it clear to myself that there would be no iPhone if they missed the honor roll.

    After receiving the grades in the mail, I wrote another contract.

    The first rule: I need to receive A’s and B’s in seventh grade to keep my iPhone. Any quarter that I don’t make the A/B honor roll I will lose my iPhone privileges until I am back on the honor roll.

    I anticipate an M or two and am envisioning sitting next to two seventh graders at some point during the coming school year. The threat of that is even better than a contract.

    And, just in case, we’ve kept the flip phones.

     

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    5 responses to “The Written iPhone Contract Is For Me – Not the Kids”

    1. Carol Avatar
      Carol

      You ROCK, Beth!

    2. Jody diGrazia Avatar
      Jody diGrazia

      Nice story! From your #1 fan!!! I love you! Jody

      Date: Thu, 2 Jul 2015 20:59:16 +0000 To: jdigrazia22@msn.com

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Great, Jody. I count on it.

    3. Eliza Waters Avatar

      I love the boundaries, good for you. Even better, the strategy of sitting next to them in class, lol!

      1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
        Elizabeth di Grazia

        Thank you Eliza for reading and commenting.

  • I Never Wanted Anything Bad Enough to Camp Overnight for It, But . . .

    Antonio had me at, “You can blog about it.”

    I studied him, then upped the ante, “With photos … of you?”

    To convince a twelve-year-old boy to pose for photos at any time is challenging.

    Antonio pointing to an empty display of Amiibos
    Antonio pointing to an empty display of Amiibos during our ‘dry’ run.

    He nodded.

    That is how I came to be standing in a line at Target on a Friday morning before the store opened.

    Amiibos would be released at 8 am. It was Antonio’s goal to get three of them before they were sold out. But, he had school. Since I had the day off from work, I would be a perfect stand-in.

    The night before the big release, Antonio insisted that we take a practice run. I needed to know the most direct route to the sales counter.

    He would have preferred that I camp overnight outside the store doors. He even offered that he and Crystel would join me. He surmised that the both of them could bring their bikes and leave me first in line when it came time for them to bike to school.

    I actually thought about it. It would be a new and shared experience. But, then again, I thought I should save that opportunity for something other than a fairy-type Pokemon. Concert tickets or ….. I don’t know …. I’ve never wanted anything bad enough to camp overnight for it.

    What we would do for our kids. Antonio certainly wanted these Amiibos. His goal was to collect every one. He has 17.

    I’m not a collector. I’m a purger. It took me awhile to understand that my children were different from me. There were times that I cringed realizing — a little too late — that they were collecting the very items I was purging. The items were already down the road at ARC or the school store or the garbage can.

    IMG_6301That Friday, after dropping Antonio and Crystel off at school I headed over to Target. I was number 8 in line. I looked down the line at my 7 peeps.

    A text message interrupted my thoughts.

    Antonio wanted to know if I was in line, how many were in front of me, and if they were kids.

    All men in their twenties except a young lady sitting next to me, I text back.

    I set down my phone and asked her why she was there. “My brother,” she said. Adding, “He owes me.”

    I stood up. “Hey, I’m writing a blog,” I said, loud enough for everyone to hear. “Do you mind if I take your picture?” A thumbs up, a nod of the head, a grunt. “Anyone mind?” I questioned again. No answer, which was my answer.

    At 8 am when the doors opened, I was surprised at the calm.

    My peeps walked single file. No cutting in line. The first guy determined the pace. Three clerks were at the counter waiting for us. Amiibos were stacked behind them. By the time it was my turn, two amiibos were already sold out.

    IMG_6307I can only tell you that I got a Jigglypuff.

    Antonio will learn if I scored any others on his birthday in July.

    Not knowing until then will torment him. I love doing that to an almost 13-year old.

     

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    One response to “I Never Wanted Anything Bad Enough to Camp Overnight for It, But . . .”

    1. Sharon Avatar
      Sharon

      Love it, when you wait in line for your first concert overnight, please let me know in advance so I can come take photos! You ROCK!


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