It’s A Different World

A few weeks ago, my job was expanded to include another plant under my human resources umbrella. I introduced myself to the General Manager and the office and production employees. I started with the personal.

“My partner and I have two children. They are 14 years old. We adopted them from Guatemala as infants.”

I shared my philosophy of human resources. I view my human resources department as a service to employees. I explained how they would see me on the manufacturing floor. I welcomed them to stop me and ask for a W2 form, address change form, vacation slip, etc.

Their eyes lit up when they understood that I would come to them instead of them having to come to me.

I marveled that I could bring me to them. The all of me. Specifically, having a partner.

It wasn’t that long ago that I never mentioned the word ‘partner’ at work. I kept the personal to myself. I wanted people to judge my human resources style not my personal life.

What changed for me was that same sex marriage became legal in Minnesota on August 1, 2013.

I am legitimate. I don’t need to hide behind unspoken words. I don’t need to say anything about my personal life. Or, I can.

This past January, Jody accompanied me to a work outing. I introduced her to the President, Vice President and others as my partner.

It’s been 4 years of living in a different world.

It’s a good thing for all of us.

Comments

6 responses to “It’s A Different World”

  1. Kim Gorman Avatar

    I’m so happy for you and so many others who no longer feel they have to hide such an integral part of themselves.

    1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
      Elizabeth di Grazia

      Thanks, Kim. It has helped bring more of me out in the world. As well as my children and partner.

  2. Ann Coleman Avatar

    I’m so glad you don’t have to hide who you are anymore. No one should have to do that!

    1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
      Elizabeth di Grazia

      It has made a difference in my life, my children, and my partner. Thanks for reading.

  3. Fierro, Maureen (MMSP) Avatar
    Fierro, Maureen (MMSP)

    Nice story ☺ and I’m glad it’s a different world!
    Maureen

    1. Elizabeth di Grazia Avatar
      Elizabeth di Grazia

      Me too, Maureen. Still have the blankets that were made for Juan and Crystel when they came home.

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